Tuesday, July 24, 2012
I had a moment to stop by my blog here and I was surprised to see a jump in the number of visitors.
When I looked into the source I found that a certain somewhat infamous "Dr.A" added my blog to her blog list. I imagine this is because of my last post, which did express some dissatisfaction with my midwifery care. Still how could a attachment parenting, non-vacinating, ICAN leader, home birth believing person, such as myself, end up being linked to by a blogger who I feel no common ground? A blogger who has been discredited by people I respect, and has a real hate on for bloggers I love, such as The Feminist Breeder.
Yes, I wished that the day of the midwife was not the day before my son's birthday but I guess I should have been more clear that the problem I had was not with midwifery in general, but with the fact that I felt uninformed that registered midwives here are required to "tow the party line" and are in fact much more involved in medical style birth then I had understood.
I didn't realize that the info I was given by one of my midwives: that being 42 weeks pregnant was dangerous for the baby, and that cervidil's prostaglandin was the same as my own hormones and the risks of it's use were that it wouldn't work, were very much hospital dogma and not evidence based.
I didn't understand that in order to keep their hospital privileges, and be allowed to catch babies they must fall in line with the head of obstetrics, and classic OB protocols.
I also feel that the chance of me experiencing an intervention based birth was not clearly articulated to me. While we spent at least 10-15 minutes discussing the triple screen test, a test that give indication of relatively rare disorders we spent NO TIME discussing the fact that the hospital I was going to give birth at has more then a 30% cesarean rate, and the fact that my attending midwifes cesarean rate was 17%.
Since entering the birth advocacy world I have heard so many stories of these types of problems, people thinking that Registered Midwife, means something other then what it does. I think that a term like Nurse Midwife would be much more forthcoming of the type of care they are able to provide.
Now all this might seem like complaints against midwives but that
IS NOT WHAT I'M SAYING!
I believe that many big hearted, women centred, truly caring women become registered midwives. I think that they are forced in to a position that is difficult to navigate, keep their hospital privileges and help women make choices that will lead them to happy births. Some appear to have become hardened by years of trying to lead women to empowering births against a massive medical/pharmacutical system. I think back to the little comments my midwives made suggesting home birth, doulas, avoiding induction and now I realize that these little comments were their attempt to give me good information, but when it came mixed with the standard hospital "you could harm your baby" info I missed the good stuff.
I totally support midwives, both registered and not, I just think we are still a ways off from finding truely informed
Saturday, May 5, 2012
And don't get me wrong I think that the rebirth of midwifery in Canada is in general a very positive thing. Too bad my experience with midwifery care kind of sucked.
Sure I am all up for taking the blame for not having the birth I wanted, for not doing enough of my own research, for not being more demanding, for assuming that midwife meant what I had read about in all of my hippie birthing books. The truth is that I feel that the care I got put me in a dangerous position of relying on people who were trained to do one thing, uncomplicated birth, when I was encouraged to leave that realm by way of induction.
I wish that the eve of little boy's birth was some other day and that I had not been asked to give three cheers for midwives 40 times this week. It makes me a little pissed off actually. Guess it's the universe's way of reminding me that, like it or not, birth culture has gotten up under my skin and I must keep using that fire for good.
So, happy Day of the Midwife, and a part of my heart really means it.
Friday, January 27, 2012
Monday, December 5, 2011
This post was not only a great oportunity to share information, it got me writing again, something I have been wanting to do for a while now!
Sunday, May 22, 2011
I believe that ALL cesarean should be done in a better, more human way. To imply that making them more “natural” will result in more women picking them I think is not giving women enough credit. As you point out no matter how humanly a cesarean is done it is still major surgery with potentially life long implications.
I also believe that one of the reasons that woman choose repeat sections is that their first section was not the experience the wanted and they believe, and are often told, that a planned section is much better then a emergent one. Perhaps if the initial sections were not so trauma inducing women would be emotionally more ready to choose a vaginal birth next time.
It seems wrong to not do what ever we can to promote emotional health of the mothers and babies, and I firmly believe that every care provider should be striving for the most holistic birth possible, even if that ends up being a “natural cesarean”. Emotional health is a part of birth that is often an after thought,but it shouldn't be. I believe doing woman friendly cesarean can help avoid the increasing cases of p.t.s.d., a debilitation and potentially long term health issue.
@Jane “Failing to fully get behind efforts to make c-sections less traumatizing and unpleasant for mothers and babies is just disappointing and wrong” I totally agree! Thank you for your post.
If this topic were a way to make cesareans physically safer there would be no debate.
A technique to prevent maternal deaths from cesareans would be embraced. I really can’t see how can any birth advocate justify denying “gentle” or “natural” cesarean techniques . I recently read that p.p.d. and p.s.t.d. can result in suicide. It is also reported that cesarean mothers are at greater risk for these disorders. I feel it’s not too far fetched to infer that:
protocols that lessen the trauma experienced during a cesarean is life or death matter.
I think it’s terribly harmful to try to prevent the dissemination of good information in suppressing “natural cesarean” techniques simply because of fear and a misguided attempt to influence the cesarean epidemic this way.
To me the natural, woman friendly, family centred, or gentle cesarean is a topic that should be addressed outside of the debate as to how to reverse the tide of the dramatic overuse of cesarean sections in the developed world.
Empowered women make good choices, not women living in fear of outdated protocols.
Think of how ridiculous it would seem if home birth advocates were calling for routine separation of mothers and babies in hospital to try to convince woman to home birth.
It is misguided to defend leaving cesarean protocols as they are as woman are being harmed.
I’m ashamed to hear otherwise wise birth advocates(both here and in other forums) bowing to fear and trying to prevent harm reduction techniques
I didn't get a direct response from the author to either of my posts, but feel so glad to see the number of women who also stood up for this very necessary dissemination of information.
Okay, I feel a little less bothered now. I guess that's what's really great about blogging is you get to say your piece.
Here's hoping that we can come together to better the treatment of families during cesareans.
Monday, May 2, 2011
This post by far gets the most hits of any post on my blog, with dozens of people from all over the globe viewing it daily.
Of all the hard things about my little son's birth, (which is in a couple of days!) I am grateful that there are good things too. It makes me feel a sense of purpose to have a way to positively influence births. I hope that by letting the world view us in our first meeting we will help other mothers and babies meet each other sooner.
I have hear that the first two years after a traumatic birth are the hardest. So I'm almost there. Please wish me luck.
Saturday, April 9, 2011
Cesarean Support Pillows
From the ICAN blog http://blog.ican-online.org/2011/04/09/new-ican-support-pillows/
"ICAN debuted our newest support offering at our 2011 Conference in St. Louis. Designed by talented ICANer Mallory Brock from a concept by Education Director Krista Cornish Scott, this fabric can be ordered by the yard directly from www.spoonflower.com with a portion of the sales going to ICAN. One yard of fabric makes three support pillows. A caring and thoughtful gift for a mom recovering from a cesarean, it has both practical advice and emotional support that is the hallmark of ICAN."
I'm ordering two yards right now to make up pillows for cesarean moms in my community.
The words of the back are particularly wonderful... the one that is sticking in my mind is something like: It's normal to have more then one emotion about a single event"
How true, my littlest son's birth was both a amazing magical moment and a source of deep trauma.
These pillows will support in many ways. I believe that physical and emotional recovery needs to be active and almost violent, the same way an aggressive surgery is.
A wise friend of mine reminded me that
Sometimes you ave to meet the fire with your own heat.